Things To Remember When Traveling With Your Partner
Thebestindonesia.com – Going on vacation with your partner is a test of your relationship. Here’s how to do it correctly:
What is the perfect partner? People who want to have sex first thing in the morning won’t ask you to go shopping, and you waive all rights. Maybe, but no relationship, no matter how erotic and compatible, is proven until the first holiday together. Ah, a holiday that is a breeding ground for vice and corruption. You go on vacation to relax, but unless you know exactly what you’re doing, vacationing with your partner can be more stressful than when you filed your vacation application. I have.
There are good reasons why couples fight on vacation. Vacations add to some stress because you’re out of your usual routine. Many couples break up while on holiday for things that wouldn’t have been a problem if they had happened in everyday life.
Vacations are a precious time for most of us, so everything gets more intense during vacations. But more vacation disputes are caused by a lack of planning than by unrealistic expectations. There may be nothing you can do about your mounting vacation feelings. Still, you can prepare for physical eventualities to prevent a fight in Quebec and sulking in Seychelles.
Therefore, if you are planning a trip as a couple, especially if it is your first time traveling together, we recommend that you follow these rules and check them after you return home.
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Make sure you both want to go to the same place
It makes no sense to take her on a hike in the Himalayas when she’d rather lie on a beach in Thailand. If your idea of a good vacation is very different from yours, maybe you shouldn’t be together or take an extra vacation. Or compromise and find a place that offers both types of luxury. You can also choose a resort (for example, a resort where one person can go scuba diving and the other can lounge by the pool with a book and a pina colada).
Of course, even if you’re eager to check out a friendly pub, you may only know their interests or idiosyncrasies once you get there. Holidays show you a side of your partner you didn’t even know existed. That’s why discussing vacation ideas is important before booking a hotel room. If she thinks she might agree with your choice of her travel destination to please you, that’s her problem, but give her a chance to discuss your preferences.
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It’s always fun to do things you love with a partner who loves the same things, but there’s bound to be some indifference between you and the other. Make it clear that you are okay with continuing to search for the tallest sequoia alone, and let her know that you’re not going to accompany your visit to the Cambodian orphanage (unless, of course, you want to).
Divide the money
The most common sources of vacation stress are money and map navigation. Even if you get lost and can afford a bed for the night, you’ll still be okay, so that that money might be more important.
No matter how compatible they are in other areas, every couple has one donor partner. This is multiplied by 100 when on vacation. A more cautious person would hesitate to make a spontaneous purchase. At the same time, others will voluntarily denounce souvenirs that you don’t need and won’t fit in your suitcase.
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Some couples try to prevent money fights by designating their partner as the holder of the decision dispute. I’m a money man, and you can’t eat more than one ice cream daily. Even if one of you finances your vacation, you’ll need to manage your own money first.
Calculate your budget for the entire trip. Calculate how much you need for your daily groceries, assuming your housing costs are paid, and if either of you wants to exceed that budget on a particular day, save the next day. Let’s divide and share. Then when one of you blew your pocket money on a 3-foot mahogany giraffe. It is only fair to the partner with the money left over who decides how it is spent.
Don’t bag the navigator
Democracy doesn’t work regarding direction. Whether driving around yourself, needing to stop in a taxi or an unfamiliar location, before you leave home, draw lots or play roulette to decide who navigates. Or split duties, but when one drives or reads maps, the other shuts up. If you don’t talk it out beforehand, you’ll have to slam on the brakes in the pouring rain and say, ‘Do you want to drive? Don’t admit later that you knew the right path when you found out you were on your way.
Follow these rules, and you’ll have a great vacation and possibly a lifetime. Shouldn’t the words have turned left there? I was the death knell of too many relationships.
Find out if you snore
Couples rarely go on vacation without knowing each other well, but it does happen. You may have shared a bed, but do you know each other’s bathrooms? Did you know that it takes 30 minutes to tie a knot? Did she do her morning yoga routine before you? Do you know someone else’s most frustrating habit?
Your first vacation can bring nasty surprises. If you catch her grinding her teeth on the first night, it could ruin her trip. Alternatively, you can prepare for a certain amount of irritation and decide in advance that you will tolerate specific outrages unless they are non-negotiable violations of some of the values you hold dear.
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Say you know each other quite well and have learned to tolerate each other’s curious habits. You could still find that being on holiday with her drives you nuts (or vice versa) because she thinks being away means she doesn’t have to be considerate of your needs as you would when you are both at home.
Being on holiday does mean you can relax, but it doesnít means turning into a complete slob. If she doesnít cleans up after you at home, donít expect her to do it when you are away. And if she thinks being on holiday gives her license to use your razor on her legs, explain (gently) that it doesn’t.
Don’t combine buddies and new lovers
You have a friend with a pad in Manhattan who’s been begging you to come and stay. Bring your new girlfriend, he says. You guys will have the best time here. No, you won’t. Not if you’ve never been away together before and you want to spend a lot of time catching up with your old buddy. They might like each other and get along fine, but a first-time holiday is about romance, and you’re not going to get that when you’re trying to divide your time and attention between a friend and a lover.
Perhaps neither of you is romantic, and you are keen on going away with other people. If these are mutual friends, no problem, but going away to meet someone only one of you knows isn’t a good idea. Only do it if it’s the first time the two of you will spend together.
You might also discover when on holiday that one of you is more friendly than the other. She wants to invite those two couples you met on the train to join you for dinner; you only want to spend time alone with her. These are things you can’t predict. All you can do is reasonably explain your desire to socialize or your objections to talking to strangers ñ and try to reach a compromise.
If it all goes wrong
There is no way to guarantee that your first holiday together will fight ñ free, but you can stop fights from turning your holiday into a nightmare. It may sound stilted, but if you can face it, talk about how you’ll deal with conflicts before you leave. Make a pact that neither of you will storm out, even if it means spending three days in silence. There’s nothing more mortifying than returning home alone. Having the power to see it through gives you time to get over fights.
If all else fails, then remember to:
You can always keep your passport and ticket if she leaves with your documents. You are going to look like an idiot in a foreign place.
